The typed word can do so much to enrich all of our lives.unfortunatly,the typed word is just that, typed and does not include with it the little nuances,smiles and gestures of the spoken word.
Because of this misunderstandings and misinterpretations happen.
While I have been a member here for 2 years,I have been a moderator on a professional Tile forum for many and have near 10,000 posts there.In my time moderating that forum i have seen many misinterpretations and misunderstandings of the typed word.
Recently I had this happen here and while things came out fine in the end with thankfully no lasting hurt feelings, it brought to mind something i shared a while back on that other forum and that is this.
We are all friends here, all engaged in an activity which is important to us and willing to share both our strengths and weaknesses amongst ourselves.
Considering this at face value we then must seriously consider the typed word as it is put before us by our friends.Sometimes we are having a bad day, a bad week, or stresses have us all wound up.Quickly we read through the posts in our favorite hangout and bang something strikes us as just wrong!!
Is it wrong,or is it a poor string of words, a misplaced or perhaps an omitted word that would have made the post seemly much differant?
Our day dictates our action and we react,are offended etc.
But wait a minute, these are my friends!!
This is what each individual should say to himself first and foremost when one finds themselves Reacting.
Why would my friend say that? Could they have meant something differant? Am i misinterpretting this?
But, will we take the time to do this, will we take the time to question our own reaction or will we just react?
Now, all this being said, I would just like to encourage folks here at the friendliest forum on the web to take a moment to send a Private message to the individual who caused this reaction to ask them what the intent was of this message.
In my experiance a misplaced or ommitted word in that typed phrase caused the reaction and no harm was intended.A simple private message can and most likely will clear things up.
We may all just be bits of code spreading across the web,but that does not mean we are not friends.Friends do not intentionally set out to hurt or cause grief to other friends.
Let us not let the impersonal of the typed word overshadow the friendships it is intended to support.Put another way.......lets not read in to what is typed here more than is there, let us first fill in that ommitted word or rearrange that misplaced one because i know of nobody who is a member here that intentionally would set out to maliciously hurt another gauger.
So next time any of us read something that elicits that reactive feeling,step back,think about it, leave it and come back to it.Whatever it takes to look at things in perspective knowing that its always a friend on the other end of that string of letters.
Let us not pronounce guilt without a trial, for innocence will suffer most if we do.
Note-this is not directed at any one or any individual, i put this forth as a simple reminder to us as a whole.
Its been a long winter and some are feeling its grip.We all have our daily stresses to deal with.Here is a place to relax and unwind, an escape if you will to those daily stresses.Lets do all we can to protect from the insurgence of reality this home we like to escape to.
Thank you for taking your valuable time to read this my friends!!
Because of this misunderstandings and misinterpretations happen.
While I have been a member here for 2 years,I have been a moderator on a professional Tile forum for many and have near 10,000 posts there.In my time moderating that forum i have seen many misinterpretations and misunderstandings of the typed word.
Recently I had this happen here and while things came out fine in the end with thankfully no lasting hurt feelings, it brought to mind something i shared a while back on that other forum and that is this.
We are all friends here, all engaged in an activity which is important to us and willing to share both our strengths and weaknesses amongst ourselves.
Considering this at face value we then must seriously consider the typed word as it is put before us by our friends.Sometimes we are having a bad day, a bad week, or stresses have us all wound up.Quickly we read through the posts in our favorite hangout and bang something strikes us as just wrong!!
Is it wrong,or is it a poor string of words, a misplaced or perhaps an omitted word that would have made the post seemly much differant?
Our day dictates our action and we react,are offended etc.
But wait a minute, these are my friends!!
This is what each individual should say to himself first and foremost when one finds themselves Reacting.
Why would my friend say that? Could they have meant something differant? Am i misinterpretting this?
But, will we take the time to do this, will we take the time to question our own reaction or will we just react?
Now, all this being said, I would just like to encourage folks here at the friendliest forum on the web to take a moment to send a Private message to the individual who caused this reaction to ask them what the intent was of this message.
In my experiance a misplaced or ommitted word in that typed phrase caused the reaction and no harm was intended.A simple private message can and most likely will clear things up.
We may all just be bits of code spreading across the web,but that does not mean we are not friends.Friends do not intentionally set out to hurt or cause grief to other friends.
Let us not let the impersonal of the typed word overshadow the friendships it is intended to support.Put another way.......lets not read in to what is typed here more than is there, let us first fill in that ommitted word or rearrange that misplaced one because i know of nobody who is a member here that intentionally would set out to maliciously hurt another gauger.
So next time any of us read something that elicits that reactive feeling,step back,think about it, leave it and come back to it.Whatever it takes to look at things in perspective knowing that its always a friend on the other end of that string of letters.
Let us not pronounce guilt without a trial, for innocence will suffer most if we do.
Note-this is not directed at any one or any individual, i put this forth as a simple reminder to us as a whole.
Its been a long winter and some are feeling its grip.We all have our daily stresses to deal with.Here is a place to relax and unwind, an escape if you will to those daily stresses.Lets do all we can to protect from the insurgence of reality this home we like to escape to.
Thank you for taking your valuable time to read this my friends!!