Please except my apology

Discussion in 'Getting Started' started by Why me, May 22, 2007.

  1. Why me

    Why me Member


    Joined: 04 Mar 2007
    Posts: 221
    Location: London city airport
    Posted: Tue May 22, 2007 10:06 pm Post subject: Please except my apoligies


    You probably remember me from the other day. I was the one who reacted very slowly to the green traffic light. When you honked your horn, I realized I was holding up traffic, so please accept my apology. However, I do want you to know why I seemed in a daze. You see, I was just at the doctor's office getting the results of the biopsy I had two weeks ago, and I was wondering how I would tell my husband and children that I have cancer. My eyes were still stinging from crying, so, quite simply I didn't even see the light change. Perhaps I should not have been driving, but I didn't want to miss my appointment and there was no one else to take me.

    And you over there, yes you. I was the one in the express lane at the supermarket. I know you are only supposed to take 12 items or less and I had a basket full. Please accept my apology. My mind was on my youngest daughter who ran away from home, and she's just sixteen. I was so distraught then. You see, she somehow got in with the wrong crowd and started using drugs and drinking. I was remembering what a pretty little girl she had been most of her life. I know you were perturbed along with others in line. Please, accept my apology.

    I remember you from the department store last week. I was so mean to you, when you were doing your job to the best of your ability. I acted so childishly. Please accept my apology. You see, I arrived home from work just yesterday and discovered that my wife had left me. But I should never have taken it out on you. Please, accept my apology.

    The above are fictitious incidents, and yet they express a very real truth.

    The old saying about judging others before you have "walked a mile in their shoes," is a much needed reminder. Perhaps we all could try to be more cognizant of the fact that there are problems and situations in the lives of others of which we are totally unaware. So, maybe before we get frustrated in similar circumstances, and find we are momentarily inconvenienced or suffering through a pointless tirade, we should think a moment and understand that things may be going on in other's lives which have caused them to be slower, absentminded or angry.

    Patience, as they say, is a virtue.
  2. Dave Flinn

    Dave Flinn Member

    That's a great reminder for all of us.
  3. TrainNut

    TrainNut Ditat Deus

    I sat here and stared at this thread for quite some time, wanting to reply but wondering if I should. After all, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all right? Well, against my better judgement, and knowing that I'll be flamed for it, here's my response -
    I'm sorry but I see this in a different light. Yes, I believe we need to be compassionate and forgiving but I also believe that we need to hold each other accountable for our actions when they affect the lives of those around us. It is absolutely terrifying the kinds of people we are driving with on our streets. If I happen to be crossing through an intersection the same time as this other person and she broadsides me and kills my family or anyone elses for that matter, because she is not focused on the task at hand and worrying about something else, SHE SHOULD NOT BE DRIVING.
    There are standards we need to be held to and I expect any of you to hold me to the same standards. I am terrible at communicating and I still haven't conveyed this as clearly as I feel it but perhaps someone else can add to it or take from it and progress forwards.... flame on.
  4. N Gauger

    N Gauger 1:20.3 Train Addict

    TrainNut - Yeah - I agree if something major like an accident (Wether there are injuries or not) happens The person should be held accountable.......

    I learned the hard way (Experience) that he's talking about the 40 - 50 minor things that we encounter every week.....

    Is that person running the red light (When there's no one else coning the other way) running it because they are ignorant???? ..... Or are they rushing to the hospital because a family member is near death?????

    Is the person rushing out of the Grocery store, rusing to be an idiot?? Or did their 8 year old (22 in my case) screaming and crying on the cell phone, because the dog just got loose and I was just getting in line??????

    I have trained myself to never lose my temper toward Idiot People... Because as Mike has posted.......

    Everyone has a story!! In every situation "each side has an opinion" That's why we have lawyers and juries... to see which story is better or true or more redeeming.....

    Even you - - your "story" is above..... and we all respect your opinion.. We might not agree.... but we respect your outlook.....

    By the way - - I have been an "Idiot" 3 times in my life so far (I'm 48 )... One was the dog, (Which we found safe and sound hiding under a van in the street 2 blocks away) ........... One was my mother dying.... and the third was when my best and closest friend had a stroke and I rushed his wife to the hospital to be with him :( :( ......... everybody has a "story"............

    COMBAT Member

    I too feel like train nut, and maybe I shouldnt but I do.

    I have to say that no matter where you stand on this it all comes down to being considerate to other people, something that very few of us do anymore. :)
  6. rogerw

    rogerw Active Member

    Tough spot to be in. You do have to be acccoutable but we are all human with emotions and dont allways think straight.
  7. rogerw

    rogerw Active Member

    sometimes love, fear,sadness ,revenge can take away our better judgments. I have done it and thankfully no one got hurt because of my emotions . Just my thoughts ty
  8. N Gauger

    N Gauger 1:20.3 Train Addict

    Interesting.......... What you use as an example, is probably the most oft found basis for assault and or murder.....

    It's really an interesting study of the human attitude we are getting here :)
  9. rogerw

    rogerw Active Member

    so n gauger, I need help:mrgreen::mrgreen::mrgreen:
  10. N Gauger

    N Gauger 1:20.3 Train Addict

    Yes... yes... my feelings exactly..... here "too close" to the big city, most people have to RACE across the street at red lights, lest they be accosted by the "inconsiderate" drivers... We all seem to get the "Well, EVERYONE ELSE is doing it!!, Why Can't "I""

    There are laws, that are constantly ignored, by law enforcement as well as drivers.... Most oft broken is the speed limit... Remember the FEDERAL law??? 65MPH maximum... 55 within 10 miles of a city..... Yeah Right!!!!! We have a highway here (As I'm sure you all do) that "if" you were stupid enough to go 55 you might only get rear-ended 2 - 3 times :( :( :(

    Then there's the people who constantly think the car has the right of way before the pedestrian in the crosswalk.... :( Yeah Rght! :(

    The police - incidentally, most times don't like pulingl over a speeder... why?? Because it causes "Rubber Necking" accidents as everyone slows down to look at the pretty flashing red and blue lights :( :( and some rear end others... :(

  11. ezdays

    ezdays Out AZ way

    It's hard not to agree with TrainNut or Combat, one doesn't belong behind the wheel if they aren't rational or capable of driving. There are those that are in total control of their faculties, but have no business driving, we all know who those people are, speeding, making quick moves to get one car ahead, running lights, and worse yet, crawling in the fast lane because they're on their cell phone. These people are just being plain dangerous and they should know better. Then there are those that have given up their sensibilities to alcohol or drugs and these are the most dangerous of all.

    As far as those that are just rude or inconsiderate, well, again, there are those that are that way 24/7 and there's no excuse for their actions other than they are just idiots and don't belong in society.

    Now let's talk about this other group, those that are overcome by emotional or medically-induced issues. Like Mikey, I've been in that position more than once. I've had a few instances where my blood sugar dropped dangerously low. Anyone that's been in that position will tell you, it isn't a pretty sight. The imbalance in your body takes over your brain and you do things you wouldn't normally do. I can become very confrontational when I get that way. The last time that happened to me was about a year ago and I was driving in very congested traffic. Even my wife didn't know what was happening, but I could have gotten us in a serious accident the way I was driving. Fortunately, there were no bad consequences other than scaring the heck out of my wife and a few others. Like Mike and Mikey, I'd love to go back and apologize to those people who didn't know what was going on, but I did not have control and I shouldn't have been driving, but my mind told me it was OK, everyone else was wrong.

    Then there was the time a few month ago when my wife was rushing me to the hospital. Yeah, we could have called 911 and waited, but she got me there quicker than they would have and probably saved my life in doing so.

    So yeah, I agree with TrainNut, but one has to understand we don't always have control and we don't always do the right things because of these issues, and we're not bad people because of it. The bad ones are those that know that they are doing wrong, but still do it as a matter of course.
  12. rogerw

    rogerw Active Member

    ditto Don
  13. N Gauger

    N Gauger 1:20.3 Train Addict

    :D :D It's a "Study" of all humans.... Some can control it.... some can't or won't :(

    That's what stops us from vehicular homicide.. or as I like to put it:

    This is why they won't let us carry weapons!!! :D :D :D :D
  14. N Gauger

    N Gauger 1:20.3 Train Addict

    and being diabetic too - -i can assure you - - a diabetic seizure is just like being drunk :( It's NOT good - -

    You ever notice, the more you drink - the smarter you become????? :D :D :D
  15. Renovo PPR

    Renovo PPR Just a Farmer

    I hardly find being upset and driving because of an unexpected event should be viewed as if that person is intoxicated or driving in a deliberate unsafe manner. I mean we are only talking about a brief delay at a green light, who hasn’t been guilty of that one. It wasn’t as if this person was so whacked that they should not be driving. I worry more about the dumb sob that is in such a hurry that they have to honk.

    I must be one of the lucky few in that little things don’t bother me. None of those written about would give me enough annoyance to even notice. Life travels so much smoothly when you take the little things in stride. This might explain how I have made it so long with out any blood pressure problems. Fun in life is having no stress

    [FONT=&quot]PS. Did you ever drive from point A to point B and have no clue how you got there? You’re totally in control of your emotions and thoughts but you just drove several miles and it was a blur.[/FONT]
  16. N Gauger

    N Gauger 1:20.3 Train Addict

    That's what i mean too... taking the small thig in stride....

    And yeah - when I'm multitasking.. (Thinking through a problem while driving) :) I do my best thinking behind the wheel.... and all of a sudden the car arrives where I wanted to be, but I don't really comprehend the trip there.....
  17. Go Big1

    Go Big1 Member

    Don't know why, but in reading this threadI can't help but remember how nice and courteous people were here in the US right after Sept 11th. I can remember driving to work, and nobody drove like idiots. Nobody cut into your lane without signaling. And if someone signaled to switch a lane, they were allowed in by the car without hesitation. Everyone was just....nicer to everyone else.

    It's a shame that in only seemed to last a month or so, and then slowly the masses reverted back into their old habits of cutting people off, changing lanes without signaling, etc. This world would be a much better place to live in and raise children in if we could have all just kept acting more civilized like we were for those few precious weeks after one of our great national tragedies.

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