My mother died last night.

Discussion in 'Getting Started' started by Russ Bellinis, Dec 31, 2004.

  1. rcline

    rcline Member

    Mikey, Our condolences to you and yours also.
    Randy & Brenda Cline
  2. N Gauger

    N Gauger 1:20.3 Train Addict

    Dang...You too???? Well they say things happen in Threes :( :( Maybe this is it??? :( My sincere condolences.. They gave My mom 3 months to live, we knew it was coming, but we didn't think it would be that soon (She lasted 1) :( :( All our Best!!! and Thanks
  3. rcline

    rcline Member

    Thank you Mickey! I'm going over to see my dad today. We have him in a nursing home right now, but are having trouble. Medacare will only cover 21 days of coverage and we found out that dad's insurance that he has been paying on for the last 50 years won't cover his nursing home cost. After the medacare runs out, the nursing home wants $111.00 per day for coverage. Although I'm sure he won't last another week, I still have to be ready to cover the additional cost if he does last that long. If that be the case, I'm going to bring him home with me. One thing is for sure, he loves my train set layout a lot and I figure that I can roll him out to the game room and let him spend time running the trains. I'm sure that he would like that because every time I see him, the first thing he asks is, have you added any more to your set yet, show me more pics if you have them. I'm going to miss him a lot!
    Again, thank you a lot.
  4. N Gauger

    N Gauger 1:20.3 Train Addict

    Yep - we had the same thing with the Nursing home, but Mom's insurance would cover 90 days - at $210.00 a day :( But after that - they would go for her assets :( - Life insurance & bank accounts :( She never made it that far anyway :(
  5. jon-monon

    jon-monon Active Member

    Dreadfully sorry to hear about your loss. But it's nice she had such a nice life. I lost my father a couple of weeks ago, and know you are going through a tough time. I know one of the things that really helped me was reading the warm words from all my friends here and on AMR. I will keep you and you family in my prayors.
  6. Ralph

    Ralph's for fun!

    My deepest sympathies. I wish each of you every peace and comfort at this difficult time
  7. shaygetz

    shaygetz Active Member

    I'm sorry to hear about your loss too, Mikey. Our prayers are with you and yours.

    Randy, the saddest part about my modelwork is that my Dad never saw any of it. For reasons unknown, he chose not to see any of us any more for his last six years, a time when my work has been reaching a level he always appreciated elsewhere but never saw on my layout. Make the best of those last days, Randy.

    Grace and peace, BC
  8. Greg Elems

    Greg Elems Member

    Sorry to hear of your loss, my condolences to you and your family.

    Greg Elems
    Reno, NV
  9. Russ Bellinis

    Russ Bellinis Active Member

    My thanks to all of you folks for your kind words. Randy, I'm sorry to hear of your dad's situation. In Ca. we have Medical that will pick up nursing home care for an individual if they don't have the resources to pay for it themselves. It can be very difficult to administer pain meds at home, and I think you need an Rn to do it. If that is the case, administering the meds at home may be as expensive as keeping him in the nursing home. The nursing home should have a social worker or a specialist on elder care on staff who could help you with options when medicair runs out.
  10. Partsman

    Partsman Member

    My sympathies Russ ... I'm glad that the family was able to say their goodbyes ...
  11. Partsman

    Partsman Member

    Sorry for your loss Mike. Not a good time of year to lose anyone. but perhaps a disguised opportunity to remember the good things during the season ...
  12. Partsman

    Partsman Member

    Oh gee! Sorry to hear your dad is in such a bad way, Randy. Praying for you and yours too ...
  13. Sir_Prize

    Sir_Prize Member

    Most sad news in these posts.
    My heartfelt prayers of comfort to all those that have lost or in the grips of losing.
    Times like these words can't be said, hugs and physical presence are better.
  14. rcline

    rcline Member

    I would like to thank everyone for all your kind words. Yes it does help to heal the heart knowing that so many people who really don't know you do share their thoughts and prayers for you. that makes me feel very good deep inside.
    I am an EMT First Responder for Clay county and a Certified fire rescue firefighter for Byers, TX. My oldest sister is an RN and works in the ER at a hospital about 70 miles from here, so I hope that between her and I, we can give dads pain meds to him sence he is a no code patient, (meaning- do nothing to save him, just make him comfortable and let nature take its course) and that is hard to do.
    Here in Texas we don't have any sort of programs to help, the nursing homes just take everything you have for payment, which is a bad deal. But life goes on even though it is hard.
    As Shaygetz said, I am trying to make the best of his last days, even though I am trying, I'm not sure about what or how to do it, but I am trying. I didn't see dad today but mom told me that he is in a state of mind now where he doesn't know who is who. Although he still has his humor about him. He keeps trying to get the D.O.N. to marry him. (LOL)
    Bless his heart, he always was a womenizer all his life and I guess he will be to the end.
    Well enough for now and again, Thankyou to all for all the support from each and every one.
    Your friend, Randy Cline
  15. I_LuV_AliyA

    I_LuV_AliyA Member

    ohh my. im terribly sorry. i noe how you feel. My mother died last year. right when i need her the most though. i was very young when it happend. My Sympathese (don't know how to spell sorry)

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